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What is it that you want most out of life? And do you ever think that it will happen for you?

In your wildest most dreams, what do you want? I'm young and I'm deciding on colleges but the idea of more school just tires me. It isn't that I'm bad at school but it just seems like a waste of life. So I started thinking that maybe it all depends on what a person wants out of life. Hopefully these answers will help me decide. I just never thought that I'd end up in an ordinary life and I desperately don't want to.

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1. I want a loving family and a home. And I have that. I didn't know thats what I really wanted for a loong time. Youth is a time for exploration. So seek and learn and don't put pressure on yourself to know all the answers of your life just yet. No matter what anyone else says.
2. I'm in your same position, i feel like my life is a little to predictable. Go to school get a career and then work : / I've been thinking about different areas of work that may just be more interesting then just some in and out job. Writing has become very appealing to me. Most out of life though? I just want to be happy with myself and i want to learn who i am and what My passion is supposed to be, so far i haven't yet to find a talent nor passion and i would like to stop worrying about everyone else and their damn problems. And yes, eventually i will receive this.
3. For now, not even something in my wildest dreams, but a deep, dreamless, restful sleep. So tomorrow when I wake up, I'll have the energy to make my other dreams come true. :)
4. School is only a waste of life if you let it be. Embrace it! Use it! It's there, it's a privilege that many people in third world countries don't have. So use what life has given you and MAKE your life extraordinary!
5. Well now... before I even begin to launch into my lengthy opinion on this subject (lol), let me just say that if you're paying attention you'll probably see that your life is anything BUT ordinary. It only gets ordinary when that's what you're aiming for -- so don't! I didn't have the luxury of obtaining a higher education. But when I was a child I dreamt of writing novels (who doesn't?). Then I got old. I did what was expected of me. I got married. I had kids. I got myself a bungalow in the burbs. I volunteered at the food bank and at church. I hid all my faults from the neighbours and kept up with the Jones's. B-O-R-I-N-G! When I realized I wasn't happy I immediately thought it was too late! Can't get a degree when there are so many little ones at my knees begging for attention, right? Absolutely right! At least for me, that wasn't an option. Yet I still wanted to be creative. I'm artsy-fartsy at heart, and that never left me. I had many responsibilities, but I still needed to do something with my life that reflected ME, my personality, my talents, my bliss. So that's just what I did. I made the best of both worlds. I took a few "classes", not whole programs. I read books and did what I call "home studies" on my favourite topics of interest. In short order, I found ways to refine my writing skills so that I could even get a few pieces published in little obscure magazines and papers. I learned how to decorate with bright colours. I learned about Feng Shui. I became something of a lay-expert in my religion (LOL) which is Christianity, but that didn't stop me from exploring the peacefulness of Zen! I explored all the ages of music and the treasures found therein. I learned how to grow and harvest and store food. (I still have to learn how to cook something edible!) This whole medley is me to a tee. All these little aspects are pieces of myself, and my dreams, and the things that make me tick. And to think, I didn't even have to play by the rules! Having said THAT, I should also say that if I had it to do all over again, I would have examined those things in the first place. I would have looked at my natural ablilities and combinded them with the things I really love, and then I would have exhausted my youth (while I still had time to myself) capitolizing on those very things. It would have simply shortened my road to "my version" of success, and I think I would have had to struggle less. Oh yes, I would have gone to school. I've read many books and even written many things, but to have credits and papers (instead of scrap books) as symbols of my achievements? Wow, that would be glorious! It would really boost my resume too, if you know what I'm saying. I still dream of writing that book. And at some point I probably will, even if it never sees a printing press. But it's a long haul. There is MUCH more to life than just study and working. There's taking time to smell those proverbial roses, and what pleasure you get when you've grown them yourself! Making a family is one thing, but making them happy is another thing altogether. That's more than a full time job, it's everything. But you see, I've had time to think on what I want to do and the best way to do it, and I know that training up children with a purpose in mind has the biggest rewards of all. You're young and can't imagine that yet, but you've probably seen the consequences of not doing a good job with your kids. And there will come a day when you will most likely want a family of your own. Do you want to be a high-powered professional, with no time for both family and job? That's stretching yourself very thin if you ask me. What I would say to you is, yes!, go to school. But study the things you really love - make sure you're at least a little bit good at what you're doing as well. I would also say that it's better to work at a managable pace, than nose-to-the-grind-stone with no time for fun. Don't drain all the pleasure out of your work. So what if you take 5 or 6 years to finish your degree instead of 4? If you're happy and you're able to enjoy yourself while you're doing it, that's what's most meaningful. People will often say it's about the journey, not the destination, and this is true. LOOK for the enjoyment along the way. There will be some parts of your education you really enjoy, that's the easy part. Other times you'll feel like someone's stepping on the back of your head. That's a good time to take a break and re-evaluate. Stick it through to the end, but what can you do to make this hard stuff less crappy for yourself? I would tell you never to stop asking yourself these kinds of questions. They lead to meaningful personal growth. In fact, question everything with a healthy criticism! Always be rational and don't be swayed by public opinion. Be true to yourself. If you don't really know who yourself is -- find out! And no matter where you find yourself in life, when the going gets tough, and boring, and mundane, have a look around you. Why are you doing what you're doing? Do you really want what you're aiming for? Change things up frequently and seek out people who are interesting and wise and funny and intelligent <--- this last point is one of my favourite secrets to happy living. You NEED to share yourself with other people. Don't share yourself with arsholes and dimwitted, judgemental cronies. Get an eclectic bunch of friends. This is no problem for you now, at your age, I am sure. But one day they'll all fade away and you'll be stuck in your bungalow with the Jones's as neighbours and if you never saw yourself as ordinary these people won't cut the mustard. The most exciting things happen in ordinary life. It's how you perceive what's going on around you that matters the most. Great photographers have taken priceless pictures of the most ordinary things. It's your imagination that brings it all to life, not your striving. Famous painters have recaptured very boring looking women and made timeless names for themselves in the process. It's not what you do or where you do it, it's WHO YOU ARE that will make your life ordinary or fantastic. You are already fantastic, just discover what's already there and work with exactly that and you'll see there really are no limits :*) Good luck to you with your whole future.